Erica.
I think that both physical and emotional love are needed to maintain a relationship. This doesn't mean sex, but physical contact. Confirmation of affection between two people. As far as sex is concerned, it carries deeper meaning between two people who love each other than between two people who don't, of course.
Can love exsist with no physical contact? Yes, I think it can. But there is rarelly a trully deep bond formed between two people who can't look each other in the eyes, clasp each others hands, or wrap thier arms around each other in an embrace. There is always going to be an empty hole in the love of a relationship if there can be no physical contact established between the two people.
As for what love is. I don't truly fully comprehend it. Deep compassion is a form of love, then of course there is romatic love, the love of friends, the love of parent to child. Each is a little different, each requires a different sort of physical response.
I don't think a culture exsist, where there is not some sort of physical response to the emotion of love. Even social creatures such as wolves and apes have a physical response that appears to be affectionate towards certain members of their groups.
So yes I think that the physicallity of love is important. I also think that women need sex just as much as men do (perhaps want is a better word). Women have been sexually repressed culturally for millenia it would seem. Women are less often able to come forward sexually because of these social taboos (they're getting less and less). So I don't like that old cliche much.
Go spread the love and hug someone.
"Would you like to see our country lose?"
"We won't lose. We've got more men, more money, and more material. There are ten million men in uniform who could replace me. Some people are getting killed and a lot more are making money and having fun. Let somebody else get killed."
"But suppose everybody on our side felt that way?"
"Then I'd certainly be a damned fool to feel any other way. Wouldn't I?"
Catch-22; Joseph Heller.
Some illusion are never met to be broken. Others are begging for it. It's up to us to discern which is which. And woe to us if we confuse the two.
Strange how your friends can hit a point, without really meaning too. I've liked your choices so far Erica for our likeness, keep it up.
Misseserica posed the question of want and wanting the other day. (Ok so it was a week ago sue me). This is something that I've pondered about long and hard since I read it, and now I think I've sorted it out a bit.
Is it better to be wanted, or to want?
Well.... neither, or both. It would seem to me that in order for a relationship to work between to people the needs of both must be addressed. This goes down to the basic level of want. There appears to be a minimum amount of criteria that needs to be met.
One). The person wanting must also be wanted by the other person to a certain extent.
Two).The wanter must have a realistic expectation of those they want.
Three). The person being wanted must be able to give of themselves enough to fufill the other persons want.
Four). This is true, not just at an emotional level, but it would appear at a physical level also.
Five). A balance needs to be maintained. The wanter will be the wanted at times and vice versa, each party needs to note when their roles in the relationship are changing and be able to magage that change.
That's all I've got to say. Just stuff I've observed, there's more to it than that. You can all tell me I'm full of shit, I won't mind. If you've more to add, or something to interject then let me know.
I've known many people over the years. Friends and family. Some have been only aquaintances, others... much more. Many have passed out of my life. Either because they have moved on, or I have, or both. Some have just passed. I miss all of them, but I don't grieve them. I did. But I don't any longer. I've been fortunant to have some of them return to be apart of my life after many years absence. Others have not, yet, though they may. I have another friend right now, passing to the midwest to be with the woman he loves. I'm glad he is, he needs too. He seems to be meloncholy about it, yet joyous; good, he should be. He seems apprehensive; that show's he's sane. All in all things will work out good for him. He'll be happy. I think I'll see him again, and if I don't... I'm not going to grieve, I'm going to sit back and think about all the good times we shared. I'm going to smile, raise a cup in a toast to him, for both the memories and the now, and wish him well.
His passing seems befitting. Because soon Greyskull too will pass. They're tearing it down.
So for those of you who know Greyskull, raise a cup.
and Teej keep up the blog, and good luck my friend, you'll do well.
